Seeing the Big Picture
Dads have their own vision of how they want their families to turn out. And that vision helps them get through the dayto- day, just as it can help us. Many dads voice their desire for their families to feel normal and comfortable instead of the foreign, walking-on-eggshells mess they so often are at the beginning and at so many points along the way.
“I want our family to feel normal,” Jake says. “I want everybody to respect each other and care for each other and understand where everyone else is coming from. I want us to enjoy each other’s company without a constant cloud hanging over the four of us. I hope that cloud shows up less and less often.”
Mark and his wife have been together for eight years, and though it hurts him to know that his wife will never feel as close to his daughter as he does, he can understand it. Still, he hopes that in time they will have a solid relationship.
“I want it to feel normal and not forced. If twenty years down the road I’m not here anymore, I would hope that my wife and my daughter would still have a relationship.”
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